The Intersection

THERE MUST BE SOME KIND OF WAY OUT OF HERE That fateful confrontation

AT SOME POINT IN LIFE, or at least in most cases, you are confronted with a situation that needs a major, if not an immediate, decision. And it is a phase where you get to make a choice, oftentimes dictating what your future will be. To a certain extent, however, this choice will either make or break you, depending on how quick or slow your decision may be, and how this decision will play out as soon as you have made it.

We call that a turning point. Though some may have labored to romanticize the whole thing, calling it a “crossroad”, a situation whereby you get to decide on what path you need to trudge (a matter of life and death as such) after reaching an intersection, thus, allowing you to make a choice. And like everything else, a turning point doesn’t always end up rosy, it has its thorns, too, which is why it bears a cruel take at times, enabling some to have been destroyed by it.

And you don’t want to be in that situation as much as possible. Unless you’re sure of its outcome. Otherwise, you run the risk of carrying the burden of your decision from that point on, which is a lot worse than having to decide yet on that particular dilemma. Dealing with a turning point, nevertheless, is always a given thing. To lesser or higher degree, we’re into it every day, and whether you’re aware of it or not. It is just that some issues do have a significant effect on our everyday grind (whatever that meant).

So it pays to be prepared or at least giving it a thought before letting it fly. That is your only shield, even when you're in the midst of that fog. When you’re at a turning point, consider the turns before giving it a shot. There may be some roads less traveled in there if you want to be different, but when you do, make sure you follow it through. And don’t sabotage the entire fixation like making a decision and then killing it right in the middle of things, that would jeopardize, let alone delay, whatever road or future you might have with your decision. 

You have to listen to the people around you as well, they are your bearings. They give you perspective and all. You need them before giving out a decision, before crossing that bridge, so to speak. Their take on it, good or bad, is more than enough for you to make intelligent choices. That way also you’ll be able to distinguish your short-term goals/agenda in relation to the longer ones, which is an integral cog in the machination of an important decision.  

It is so hard to deal with it when you don’t have enough options. That has alienated others to a point where they quit even before making it to first base. The pressure is so real and ravishing that the only way out is to get out of it fast. And that doesn’t necessarily mean getting out of it with a clear-cut resolution. Others end up on the wrong side of the tracks. 

So don’t isolate yourself. While it is true that you can decide for yourself, in most cases, however, that has done more damage than development as far as a solution is concerned. It might just be another place after all, but sometimes a change of scene has its own excuse for being. You suddenly realize that you may have missed out on a detail of an issue and that being away from it allows you to see it objectively. So it pays to stay away from it for a while before giving it a shot.

Crossroads happen all the time. It’s not a freak of nature nor a déjà vu (not even close), but a day-to-day business. Although you can’t argue with fate, as some would put it, as a form of explanation to your turning point. But be that as it may, you can always do something about it as you go on with it. It might be luck working upside down or some twisted destiny out there, but if you can consider the causes and the effect thereafter, you might have a better chance of getting that desired result as part of your decision. 

The poet Omar Khayyam must have thought about it when he wrote, “Be happy for this moment. This moment is your life”. So you need to take heart when you’re confronted with it, it means you’re doing something at that moment, not just taking it all in, but that you’re shaking things up. That moment when you realize you’re in that hollowed zone, where you can actually turn things around and ultimately make a point. 


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