Petty Noose

OUT OF THE BLUE AND INTO THE BLACK There has to be some help somewhere

SUICIDE IS NO LAUGHING MATTER. I remember a former classmate who took his own life because his parents find it abhorrent to have a “faggot of a son” around the house. When we found out what happened to him, most of us don’t want to report to our classes anymore. The thought of knowing his situation that day and be dead in a matter of hours sends chills to your bones the moment it hits you. 

Everybody’s talking about suicide, yet nobody’s brave enough to confront it. Despite its sorry casualties over the years, suicide remains a taboo, a subject discussed only in close quarters. You don’t even bring that up, if possible, in public, because the mere mention of killing yourself, needless to say, has that already gloomy tone in the air. So I can only imagine the state of mind of those who are seriously considering it. 

But suicide is having a major facelift these days. For the past two years (and blame it in on a number of high profile personalities who opted out of life through a noose), suicide has now been the go-to move for some troubled souls out there. Everybody’s doing it, so it must be cool, or so they thought. 

The transference must have been that enticing. Whenever someone hangs himself or blows his head off, there’s this almost automatic mythical thing going on towards the victim. It is as if all of a sudden he becomes some sort of a legend and that suicide seemed like a noble thing to do. That has since been its evolution in our contemporary consciousness, especially on social media. It might sound morbid to the ears but it is quite “hip” nowadays to die by the rope. 

There has to be some help somewhere. And this has got to stop! We can’t go on glorying or even condoning indirectly this senseless act. If unchecked, nonetheless, it could influence a whole lot of people, not just an individual, of checking out that quick and in an ignoble way. 

It looks complicated, but the reasons, most of the time, are far too trivial for you to take your own life.    

We all have our issues, but that doesn’t mean we snap like a fart in the wind when the going gets tough. We stumble, without exemption; we screw things up intentionally or otherwise. Everybody’s into something that could make them vulnerable, trapped, or empty. 

Some people may have their own way of dealing with their personal quandaries, enabling them to get away with it. Others simply can’t. If you do, however, feel inadequate or don’t have any options with regards to the resolution of your problems, your attitude, without you knowing it, can actually spell the difference. If you can wield your attitude in a way that covers your concerns, you’ll be able to overcome it.  

And it is not something that you should speculate the moment you’re out of sync, lest make it a viable option to put to end anything that bugs you because you can’t straighten up a problematic thing with a problematic solution. You’re only making it worse. 

I am not in a position to judge, but I do hope, though, you don’t entertain it. When it creeps on you again, it would be wise to stay in touch with people who you think has the better chance of understanding you, and as much as possible, don’t isolate yourself. Don’t fight it. Go out and have fun. Spread the disease, so to speak. 

If you lock yourself alone, you intensify that sound hovering in your head, which, in clinical terms, is often referred to as depression. And when that happens, you might be kissing the snake goodbye.                



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